BRENT STOLLER

A hopeful, (sometimes) humorous take on the traumas of infertility and pregnancy loss.

Four Years in the Making: Emily and Brent Become Parents

After four years, five pregnancies, five lost unborn children and a 43-hour induction process, Emily and I finally got our rainbow baby.

Pregnancy: What If We Have a Girl?

Last week, I talked through some of my hopes, feelings and fears about the possibility that Emily and I will have a boy.

Here, I do the same about the possibility of having a girl — a prospect that might be even more exciting. That is, if it also weren’t so frightening.

Pregnancy: What If We Have a Boy?

While all Emily and I want is a healthy child, it does seem that boys and girls can each potentially come with their own upsides and their own challenges.

To try to get ready for whoever is headed our way, I decided to talk through some of my hopes, feelings and fears about having a child of each gender — beginning with the gender with which I am most familiar.

Dad Practice: Learning to Laugh at Yourself

As a first-time father, I know I’m going to screw up. A lot. And I need to be able to laugh at myself when I do.

Unfortunately, finding humor in my mistakes has never been a strong suit — a fact that was abundantly clear recently when I nearly set our kitchen on fire.

Dad Practice: The One Thing That Makes Everything Better

Ever since I lost my job, I’ve been in a funk.

But a recent conversation with a friend reminded me that feeling better is as simple as changing this one thing.